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Be constructive, not disruptive!Filed Under: Discussion

This article is aimed toward the mentality of some people who are not only pessimists, they’re also disruptive as well.

In my opinion, I seriously do hate it when I’m doing something, say, preparations for my wedding dinner and someone just comes in and say not only negative things, but also things that are discouraging.

For example:

I, being the groom on the actual day, had to coordinate a lot of people to do certain things. As much as possible, I’d like to coordinate rather than to do it myself. However, at the same time, I’d also like to get my hands dirty in some areas as well.

The thing is, I actually got fingers pointing at me, saying that I wasn’t doing this, wasn’t doing that, how I could have done it better, etc…..

All these are complete bullshit! When things were happening on the ground, where were these people? Where were their fingers?

Next, if there is really a mistake, and I’ve been pointed out. Fine, next, what’s the solution? Can we move on? No, of course NOT! That’ll really make things too easy for me isn’t it?

There’re people out there who’s brains are as dead as their tombs. They don’t move on. They only scorned at good things that have happened and gloat at bad things when they happen.

I sincerely appreciate warnings in advanced and advices that are constructive. But I seriously do not tolerate disruptive bevhavior.  These disruptive suggestions and statements serve nothing to improve the situation and does no credit to the originator as well.

In conclusion:

1. If you’re really out to help, be constructive.
2. If your opinion isn’t heeded, so be it. You can disclaim responsibility when things go wrong.
3. It’s ok to be a pessimist and conservative. These are but traits of human beings, there’s nothing seriously wrong being a pessimist.
4. It’s NOT ok to be disruptive. What do I mean? Here’re the few traits that will describe one as being disruptive.

• Gloat over you when things go bad for you. Eg, “I told you not to do this! See? You deserve it don’t you?”
• Being sarcastic. Eg, you’ve done something once and failed. Name it Project ABC. This person then comes up to you and ask “How’s your ABC project? Still doing ah?” in a most sarcastic manner.
• Being condescending. Eg, you’ve asked for an opinion, the other party treats you like an idoit.
• Being overly argumentative. Eg, a discussion gone bad, objective arguments turn into a barrage of personal attacks.
• Being irresponsible. Eg, Empty promises and worse, lies.

All being said, if you’re not really there to help or you’ve been forced to help, nobody’s obliged to help anyone.

What I really need is a bunch of constructive talents that is focused on constructing great games and not a bunch of disruptive clowns that ruin the show. I don’t really have the time or luxury to entertain such nonsense.

Again, this post is quite harsh in terms of choice of words. But I’m being transparent here; there is nothing induction or hidden meaning beyond what I’ve already written. Personally, I’d rather have people who are honest to me (helping me or not) than to pretend to be part of the project, as a freeloader and contributing absolutely nothing at all to the project itself.

Otherwise, it’s better not to even start helping at all.

Regards,
Jeremy